#ChoosetoChallenge IWD 2021

#ChoosetoChallenge IWD 2021

International Women’s Day (IWD) is always an important moment to reflect on the gender inequality that still exists all over the world.

This year’s theme is Choose to Challenge.

Today, and hell every day, we can choose to challenge, and call out gender bias and inequality. We can choose to celebrate women’s great achievements and create an inclusive world.

We all have our own thoughts and actions, so why not focus on your own individual responsibility to act and challenge the inequality in our everyday lives.

Now, this doesn’t mean you need to set up a debate at work or go on a protest march (even though these are great ideas!). This can be as simple as looking at yourself and no longer dressing and look pleasing to the typical man, but for yourself. Reclaim yourself and grow into your skin and feel comfortable to tackle bigger issues outside of yourself. Why not host a girl’s movie night, maybe watch Girls Can’t Surf, and strike up a conversation with friends on how they feel.

Challenging can be hard, especially when you have a difficult person ahead of you, or the time and place don’t feel right. But know that your feelings are valid, and you deserve to feel safe, respected, and included. Back yourself and surround yourself with others who will do the same.

As IWD states, a challenged world is an alert world, and from challenge comes change, so let’s all choose to challenge.

How will you act to form a gender-equal world?

Check out the IWD website for more information.

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You Are A Fearless Female

You Are A Fearless Female

What does it mean to be fearless?

Does it mean you are not scared of the massive four-centimetre spider creeping in the corner of your room, or you have no hesitation jumping 12,000 ft out of plane for the thrill or maybe you are comfortable walking into a networking event solo?

According to Collins dictionary, to be fearless is to be: without fear; not afraid; brave; intrepid.

And, according to Fearless Females (FF) we are going to have to agree to disagree (Well not completely disagree, just make some minor amendments and be sure to let Collins know).

We believe, to be fearless is;

  • To be aware of your own weaknesses and learning how to disarm them
  • It’s not about having no fear but embracing fear and using it as an energy to move forward
  • Owning who you are and realising these weaknesses do not hold you back and you will continue to kick goals!

Now I know what you are thinking, how does this make me a fearless female?

We are all riding the same wave. We are challenged every day in the decisions we make and our actions which follow. And when you think you have walked out of a situation, you are certain to walk into another at some point which may make you feel uncomfortable, anxious, or afraid.

Along with those emotions there is something else inside of you… adrenaline, passion and hope. The hope you can conquer what is ahead of you with the feeling of accomplishment in arms reach. If you can conquer something you are afraid of, you will be empowered and even happier you put yourself out there.

So, guess what? Fearlessness is inside you, waiting to show everyone you’ve got this and be confident in who you are and what you can do.

Courage doesn’t always roar. Sometimes courage is the quiet voice at the end of the day saying, “I will try again tomorrow."

— Mary Anne Radmacher

How can you channel your FF?

  1. Acknowledge your fears and understand this is your body’s reaction to warn and protect, not to scare and prevent. Understand your fear might be based on biology, like yikes that is a big ass snake, or from past experiences which have scared you.
  2. It’s easy to get lost in your own thoughts and down the rabbit hole of doubt and questioning. You do not have to listen to your inner mean girl. Go tell her to sit this one out. Because often she has things wrong or blown out of proportion. You must not forget to be kind to yourself.
  3. There is no better antidote to fear than self-confidence, the more confident you are about your ability to handle what scares you, the more secure you feel. Getting the facts, knowledge and gaining experience minimises the intensity of fear by making things seem less scary and more preventable.

It’s time to grab fear by the reins and channel your inner fearless female. You’ve got this.

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Let Your Tears Flow – It’s Okay To Cry

Let Your Tears Flow – It’s Okay To Cry

Why am I like this?

That is the exact thought that always flashes through my mind when the tears start to flow. You see, I am a Cry-er. I am not subtle about it either. Someone once told me that I cry with my whole body, there are tears, shudders, and loud sobs – I feel sorry for whoever spots me pulled up at a red light, openly weeping and blaring Taylor Swift’s Folklore.

I will always cry if I have to and I have been that way my whole life. When you’re a child and just feeling how you’re feeling, it seems like nothing to shed a tear. However, as I grew older, the shame and embarrassment of a good cry grew too. I am not weak; I am a strong woman and strong women don’t cry.

But I’m here to tell you, that’s bullshit (a technical term).

Crying is good for your mind

Okay, this is the obvious one that you probably already know. But crying is a mental and emotional release. How many times have you felt yourself on the brink of a good old-fashioned cry and thought, “not here!” so you hold it in and end up feeling far worse?

A moment of crying helps us step back and take a moment to process what may be wrong. Pent up emotions and holding on to emotional baggage can severely impact your mental health.

Crying is good for your physical health

You know that moment after a good cry when you just feel lighter? Like the problem that caused this feels more manageable – or even inconsequential? Your tears are not just responsible for an emotional release.

Emotional tears (not the “I’ve just cut the worst onion of my life” tears or “How have I stubbed my toe on the bedframe AGAIN?” tears), have a different make up to others. They have higher levels of proteins and stress hormones such as Prolactin, so when you are excreting them from your body – you’re physically getting rid of your stress.

A big sob also naturally comes with other physical symptoms, such as deep breathing, which reduces cortisol – the stress hormone – so your body will naturally relax.

Not only that but tears are your body’s natural defense mechanism against all the nasty germs floating around. So, a quick little eye-water is preventing all that bacteria from entering your body.

Crying is good for connection

As someone who has cried in public multiple times, I can confirm. In those moments, sure, I was embarrassed. But embarrassment, according to Researchers at the University of California, Berkley, has a place in bonding with people. People who feel embarrassed earn greater trust and are often seen as transparent, selfless and cooperative.

There is also the age old example, of crying in a bar bathroom. It takes one drunken girl to spot you, console you, bring her friends and suddenly you are being uplifted by the girl gang you didn’t know existed. Vulnerability brings people together.

If there’s one thing I hope you take away from this, it’s that crying takes strength, to know what you need, to show vulnerability, to feel something when you don’t know how to feel. You are not weak to do so, you are strong.

So, let it out girl, and when the tears dry, you’ll be ready to show the world that you’re an unstoppable force.